The way I see it, we always have two choices: dainty or ragtag scallywag. This is a mere record of my daily decisions as a 24 year old barista on her fcking grind. ^^/
An exercise in wanting.
Creepily accurate…
You know you’re in a good marriage if…
- You don’t take it personally when she is in a bad mood.
- You don’t take for granted the thoughtful things your partner does—replacing your toothbrush or asking how the Cubs are doing when she could give a crap about sports.
- When you fight, neither one blames the other, and each takes responsibility. (Note: If you act like this, you were created in a lab by Dr. Phil and the woman who wrote The Secret.)
- The division of household responsibilities feels fair (regardless of the truth).
- You can talk to each other about what turns you on.
- You don’t feel like you’re being compared to other people.
- You still have big, openended conversations about the future—“Are we happy at our jobs?”—just like you did when you were falling in love.
- You’re so hyperaware of your partner’s shortcomings—“How can she think the elliptical counts as real exercise?”—that you fail to notice the good things she does.
- You feel like you’re constantly being compared to other people.
- You disagree in unconstructive ways: with defensiveness, contempt, or superiority.
- You avoid conflict altogether.
- You find yourself feeling jealous of the attention your spouse pays to her iPhone.
- When something big happens in your life, good or bad, the person you want to tell first isn’t your spouse.
- Not only does your partner not like going down on you, but neither of you can actually say “going down on you.” You can’t talk openly about sex, and as a result you both feel dissatisfied.
k so say someone falls in love with you for x, x, and x reasons. they hurt you and you put your guard up like crazy. they get mad when you don’t act like the person they fell in love with.
you’re a changed person, but only to them.
but you still have those x, x, x qualities inside you somewhere and other people see it and love you for it and you totally believe someone will fall in love with you for the same reasons.
does this make you fake? are these your “true colors”? does this make you a bad person?
…nvm just answered my own question: they are just a fucking idiot.
kthxbye
Don’t stop chasing.
I think that one of the biggest reason why relationships do not work out in the long run is because at one point, one side (or both) stops trying. Before one claims another person as their significant other, they would do anything to make that person happy. They would chase, they would flirt, they would be charming. They would send daily morning and goodnight texts every time you wake up or go to sleep. They would write corny messages and pick up lines just to make sure that there is a smile upon your face. But once they claim you as theirs, all of those things eventually stop. The 5 page texts slowly turn into 1. The constant calls turn into not calling at all. And the lovely endearments turn into daily arguments. In order for a relationship to work, don’t ever stop chasing. Just because the person you want is now consider “yours”, it does not mean they deserve anything less than the time when you’re trying to win them over.
Lots of this going around seems like.
was JUST thinking about this…it makes me sad.
# BECAUSE YOU'RE AN ASSHOLE
# curb your enthusiasm
# larry david
# relationships
# don't mind me
…why can’t it be that easy?
Is this messed up? It allows me to be 100% candid and honest but never letting them see it probably makes me 100% coward.
I have to write one soon that has to get delivered. Like, I NEED you to read this. It’s so damn scary.
THIS. Johnny Depp even agrees.
Today at work, I was reminded of a line from a song that I started liking because they were one of my ex’s favorite bands. True, I was exposed to it a lot, but I really started to love them, and formed my own little affair with them. It was a passionate affair, and I didn’t really realize how much I independently love them until this very moment…as I sit here writing this, listening to “our” song remembering the good times that were so so so so so few and far between.
I really love this song! I really love this band! Why should such beautiful melodies carry such ugly memories? We had a junk relationship, but this music stands alone. When you break up with someone, must you also call it quits on their music? Remember how I clung to this song with my entire heart? It’s like making friends with your significant other’s friends. When things get bad, do you delete them from facebook even though you got close enough to hang out on your own and not depend on your bf/gf’s presence to link you?
I feel weird wanting to sing this song out loud. It’s like I’m going back in time to something I’m not supposed to remember, it’s like I’m digging up someone’s grave and stealing only the beautiful pearl necklace they were buried in.
Should I leave this band alone? Am I being melodramatic? The songs are worth the hurt and weird feelings, though, I think. I think it’s safe to invest in this again. I’m a totally different person now, and I think it’s important to stick with the things that stick with you, even when you change who you are almost completely. I just need to make some new memories with these songs playing in the background. Decision to re-download entire discography: affirmative.
how is it that the grossest, most irritating, disrespectful, god-awful people all have significant others while good people are tossed to the side? it honestly baffles and disgusts me to no end.
# quote
# quotes
# maya angelou
# truth
# true
# favorite
# how i feel
# romance
# relationships
# love
# friendships
# friends
# dating
# advice
The reason I am like this is because I’m looking for something I never had. I got closer and closer with each try, but still never experienced anything like what’s in my head, like my fantastical goals. I can’t force people to change based on what I want, cause then it’d be exactly what I don’t want.
hmm.
